Is the Geriatric First-Time Mom the Latest Trend, and at What Cost to the Child?

In May, 2009, I wrote an article about a sixty-sixbe cancer; not war, disease or criminal wrongdoing. I
year old British woman, Elizabeth Munro, who waswonder what Ms Bousada would say now if she
due to give birth to her first child, conceived in acould. Would she still believe that her rights were
Ukraine fertility clinic through IVF. At the time, Iparamount to the children's interests?
weighed the rights of a healthy woman to do as sheMore and more, we are hearing of instances in which
pleased with her body against the best interests of aan individual's desire to be a parent is pitted against
child born to a mother of advanced age and admittedgovernment regulation. Some of these stories truly
my own discomfort with the idea of a woman ofpull at the public's heart-strings; such as Briton Michelle
pensioner's age, being pregnant. In the end, IHickman, who faces having her frozen embryos
concluded that it really was none of our business anddestroyed when a five-year storage limit lapses soon.
we should allow Mrs. Munro and her baby theirIn her case, a medically necessary hysterectomy
privacy, partially because it seemed like an anomaly. Iforced her and her husband to produce the embryos
wanted to believe that she might be like a Wonderby IVF, with the plan to use a surrogate to carry
Woman; capable of bouncing back from childbirththem to term. They currently have two children, one
with the energy I wish I had had when I gave birthof whom was born through surrogacy, and would like
to my second child at forty-two.to have two more. Whose interests would be served
Well, here we go again, with two news reports in asby destroying the ability of 36 year old Ms Hickman
many days of another British woman, identified as 72and her 37 year old husband, Martin Hymers, to have
year-old Jenny Brown, trying to become pregnant,additional children? If they are young, healthy,
and a Spanish single mother, 69 year old Maria delfinancially fit, willing and able to care for a large family,
Carmen Bousada who died on Saturday July 11th,why shouldn't they be given every chance?
leaving two-year old twins orphaned. Could it be thatSituations like the one facing Ms Hickman often make
what seemed an anomaly is actually a trend? Itpeople shake their heads at the unfairness of
boggles the mind to realize that other women feelgovernment intrusion into what they regard as
encouraged and justified to do the same as Mrs.natural rights. To others, parenthood is less a right
Munro, but at an even more advanced age. Some willthan a privilege. Many more will debate the ethics of
apparently lie to their doctors, travel the globe andpeople putting their own desires before the best
commit huge sums of money to their quest forinterests of the children they want to create. As we
motherhood. The Evening Standard reported thatadvance into the modern age of medicine and more
"Londoner Jenny Brown has travelled to the US andunusual means of pregnancy and childbirth become
Italy" and has spent £30,000 on six courses ofphysically possible, the government has to alter its
IVF thus far. She intends to continue trying toregulations to respond accordingly, and it does,
conceive, even if that means going to Bulgaria,eventually. But even so, are we ready to throw a
Romania, Spain and India for treatment. The articlebaby shower for a septuagenarian "new mom?"
gives no more details, such as whether Ms Brown isWhat will Jenny Brown be able to give to her child, if
married, in good health, or has a plan for the physicalindeed she does become pregnant at the age of
and emotional care and financial support of a child ifseventy-two? I am not questioning her ability to
she should die when it is still a minor, i.e. before she isprovide her child with love, a home and possibly,
90 years old.enough money to raise him/her to adulthood. I do
Meanwhile, the news report by on Ms Bousada'swonder, though, how much will she be able to
death in Cadiz, Spain fuels the debate over theseparticipate in her child's life as he grows? Will she join
geriatric pregnancies and births. In various interviews,Mommy-and-Me classes, go on Teddy Bear Picnics,
she told reporters that "everyone should become ajump up and sprint to pick him up when he falls off
mother at the right time for them." She had sold herthe climbing frame, help with homework, fight off the
house to achieve her dream. Apparently, all three ofcolds and viruses he brings home from school,
the women mentioned here take the view thatchauffeur him around to play-dates, sports clubs and
motherhood is all about their rights. I'm not sayingproms, relate to him at all regarding music, clothes,
that the rights of their children are completelyhairstyles, choice of language or taste in girls? Will she
disregarded, however, the death of Ms Bousadabe able to guide her child through GCSE's, celebrate A
illustrates one of the reasons that fertility specialistsLevel results, swell with pride over a first job or cry
in the UK will not take on patients at their ages. Wewith joy over an engagement? It seems unlikely.
don't know what arrangements she has made forEven more unlikely is the child's ability to appreciate
her twins, but regardless of the quality of their care,and assist an elderly mother's lessening mobility, failing
it is tragic that they have been separated by deathhealth or financial need. Whereas some people may
from their natural mother at less than three yearshave swallowed hard to accept Elizabeth Munro's
old. Nothing can make up for their loss, made worsechildbirth at 66, I think we will find Jenny Brown's age
by the fact that their paternity appears to beof 72 may be pushing the boundaries a little too far
unknown. The cause of death has been reported toto gain public support.